Splashes of wonderful sunshine on this 38F morning perked my spirits and occasionally lit up the road ahead as Pheeps and I slowly made our way along a few country roads on this quiet Sunday morning. So many things to think about and so little time to think about them.
It was another very quiet day at home here for Pheebs and I. My interest in going outside and maybe raking a few leaves was just not there. Luckily for me, one of my main hobbies is reading and the other is my blog which focuses much of my time and attention putting it all together.
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A SCHOOL BUS SHELTER AT THE END OF THE FARM LANE TO SHELTER KIDS FROM THE WIND, RAIN, AND SNOW, WHILE WAITING FOR THE MORNING SCHOOL BUS |
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I HAVE A FEELING THAT MOTORHOME IS NOT DESTINED FOR THE WARM SUNNY SOUTH THIS WINTER |
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THAT PIECE OF GREEN MACHINERY SITTING ON A TRAILER FITS ONTO THE FRONT OF A COMBINE AND IS USED TO HARVEST CORN |
I talked with Kelly this morning and it is sad to hear her weakened voice. It is the voice of someone trying to make the best out of a bad situation. I have become very disappointed in our health care system in this country and I have become very disappointed in a hospital that I once held in high regard. In these last few years of Kelly's health care, I have seen and heard things that are just not right. University Hospital is a training hospital and that is admirable. But, there is an unavoidable problem with that. The vast majority of trainees are from different countries with different cultures and languages. I had a perfect example of this two days ago when our phone rang and I saw on the message display the letters LHC. I knew right away that meant 'London Health Center' and it was probably University Hospital calling, and probably something important. When I said hello, the lady on the other end began talking rapidly in very poor English. Try as I did and asking her twice to repeat what she said I could not understand her. I recognized a few English words and the rest to me was jibberish. I finally said, 'you must have the wrong number' and hung up. Now, that could have been a hugely important call. If so, why oh why oh why would the hospital have someone with such poor English skills call anyone???? What is the matter with people!!!! Where has common sense gone!!!! Although 'almost' everyone may be trying their best, it is obvious that there are huge communication problems in this world. Couple this with the fact that our hospitals are overcrowded, and understaffed, and it is inevitable that mistakes are continuously made in the chaos and confusion. In all of this, patients are being overlooked. I have seen this firsthand in Kelly's case. It makes me more sad than angry that our once great health care system in the country has deteriorated so far. In the words of one of Kelly's nurse people, "Our health care system has gone for a #!*%". Kelly was told yesterday that her abdomen would be 'tapped' today to relieve the pressure built up from Ascites. (the build-up of fluid in the space between the lining of the abdomen and abdominal organs) There is so much fluid in her abdomen that it is pressing on her stomach and it is uncomfortable for her to eat. The fluid is pressing on her lungs causing her shortness of breath which I can hear in her voice. That fluid is also pressing on her spine where the two compression fractures are and it is pressing on her bladder causing a whole host of problems there as well. It is uncomfortible for her to lay down with all that fluid in her. A doctor came in this morning and told her that "they would address the Asites problem tomorrow (Monday). Very upsetting for Kelly as she tries so hard to put a positive outlook on all that she is going through. And then there is her Prolapse situation that needs immediate attention but nothing (except a referral) has been done. And, the earliest she could get into an Osteoporosis Clinic for her back is the end of January '2026' and that's over a year away. Like Kelly said this morning, had we known this was going to happen, we would have moved away years ago to a different country with a far better healthcare system. I feel we have many fine medical people here in our country but I also think that for them it is like trying to swim upstream in a fast-flowing river and they are all so very overwhelmed, over worked, and over tired. There are just too many people on the Planet and we don't have the infrastructure to properly care for everyone. It bothers me to write what I have just written but sometimes things just have to be said !! I am just so disappointed. Update:: After writing the above earlier this afternoon Kelly called later and said a Doctor with an assistant surprisingly came into her room and commenced to 'tap' that Ascetis fluid from her abdomen. She said they drained a total of 6 litres from her abdomen. She said she is feeling better and I noticed the change in her voice immediately. The happy bounce was coming back and her voice was stronger. She's now hoping there may be a chance she can come home tomorrow.
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OSAGE ORANGE TREES AHEAD |
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HELLO, ALL YOU LITTLE GREEN OSAGE ORANGE GROUND APPLES |
It is at the end of each day now these past few years that I appreciate that it is not the beginning of each day. With the end of each day, all challenges for that day are behind me, unlike the beginning of each day when all of the challenges are still ahead of me. At the end of each day, I know what the challenges were. At the beginning of each day, I do not know what hidden challenges await me and the knowable challenges I do know about, worry me. Hasten my slumber, bring on my sleep, and in the morning I may have a plan for the new day I must keep................A friend of mine on Facebook sent me these words today which in turn brought tears to my eyes as I read it thinking of Kelly.................. Ernest Hemingway once said: In our darkest moments, we don’t need solutions or advice. What we yearn for is simply human connection—a quiet presence, a gentle touch. These small gestures are the anchors that hold us steady when life feels like too much.Please don’t try to fix me. Don’t take on my pain or push away my shadows. Just sit beside me as I work through my own inner storms. Be the steady hand I can reach for as I find my way. My pain is mine to carry, my battles mine to face. But your presence reminds me I’m not alone in this vast, sometimes frightening world. It’s a quiet reminder that I am worthy of love, even when I feel broken.
So, in those dark hours when I lose my way, will you just be here? Not as a rescuer, but as a companion. Hold my hand until the dawn arrives, helping me remember my strength.
Your silent support is the most precious gift you can give. It’s a love that helps me remember who I am, even when I forget.
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ALL DECKED OUT IN THEIR SUNDAY BEST |
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WHEN MY TRUSTY NAVIGATOR FEELS A LITTLE SNOOZY IT'S TIME TO HEAD FOR HOME |
Al's Music Box:)) Too Late To Turn Back Now is the 1972 follow-up single of Cornelius Brothers & Sister Rose to their debut hit "Treat Her Like A Lady". The single had previously been released in 1970 on the Platinum label. Written by Eddie Cornelius, the song had great success upon its re-release, peaking at number 5 on the U.S. R&B chart and number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100 (behind "Lean on Me" by Bill Withers. "Too Late to Turn Back Now" went to No. 1 on Cash Box's chart of the Top 100 Singles for the week of July 29, 1972. "Too Late to Turn Back Now" is ranked as the 34th biggest U.S. hit of 1972. The record was awarded a gold disc on 2 August 1972 for one million sales by the Recording Industry Association of America.
GROANER'S CORNER:(( An incompentent counterfeiter spent all day making his funny money. At the end of the day he realizes he spent all his time making $15 bills. He figures that the only way he's going to get anything from this batch of money, is to find a place where the people aren't too bright and change his phoney money for real cash. He travels to a small town and walks into a small Mom and Pop grocery store. He goes to the old man behind the counter and asks him, "Do you have change for a $15 bill?" The old man replies, "I sure do...How would you like that? An eight and a seven or two sixes and a three?"-------------------------------------------------
- Notice! Take lettuce from the top of the stack,or heads will roll!
- A TV can insult your intelligence, but nothing rubs it in like a computer.
- I tried to get in touch with my inner child,but he isn't allowed to talk to strangers.
- I have to take my paycheck to the bank. It's too little to go by itself.
- I must be following my diet too closely. I keep gaining on it.
- Welcome to Megacomputer's 24-hour helpline. If you have been waiting LESS than 24 hours, please remain on the line.
- Whenever I'm in a mood to watch the world go by, I just keep to the posted speed limit.
- Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.
- One tequila, two tequila, three tequila, floor.
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Prisoner: Look here, doctor! You've already removed my spleen, tonsils, adenoids, and one of my kidneys. I only came to see if you could get me out of this place!
Doctor: I am, piece by piece.
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ReplyDeleteAl, what a powerful post tonight! So much thinking going on. So GLAD Kelly was relieved of all that fluid. Geesh! No wonder she was suffering---- waterlogged on the inside! Love that thinking re evening vs. morning. Makes sense. You and Kelly have MANY hearts riding along with you. Hoping tomorrow will be a better day, maybe with Kelly home!
ReplyDeleteLike you those of us that recall what our that the Canadian Health Care was once the envy of the world, but over the last Three Decades have seen it deteriorate. There may have been medical breakthroughs, but the administration and personal treatment has gone downhill.
ReplyDeleteWhat has not gone away are your followers who are praying for a positive outlook for all of you.
Stay Safe.
Thinking of you and Kelly at this time
ReplyDeleteMarie Johnston
I wish I could do something - anything- to help you and Kelly..... I am glad that she feels better after draining off the fluid, and hope she gets to come home tomorrow
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone, you have many readers that go first to your blog every day to read your words, enjoy your beautiful photography, to see how Kelly is doing. Many prayers are being spoken for you both. We care. God be with you both, and Pheebs, too! A faithful reader in Arkansas🙏❤️
ReplyDeleteTheir draining that fluid is some good news! Over a year to get an appointment is ridiculous.Sweet Pheebs being that tired makes you take her home, how nice of you Al. Still praying for Kelly's health to be totally restored ,I hope you are a good evening -Mary
ReplyDeleteBecause you have written and shown visually to so many of us what your life is like, your being a good, perceptive, and sensitive guy is really obvious, and elicits the best from others. So, we write back in feeble words....not exactly sitting in silence, but doing our best to show we are with you.
ReplyDeleteHoping the Bayfield Bunch are reunited tomorrow. Thanks for everything you do for us Al.
ReplyDeleteYou are not alone. We all suffer with you.
ReplyDeleteHere’s hoping Kelly comes home where she belongs. - Hazel from down the road
Such a sad but reflective post. One that focuses on our enduring love for one another and the care we show for our loved ones. Thank you Al. Stay strong for the coming weeks ahead and just be there for that sweet gal. xo
ReplyDeleteThankful that Kelly and was able to get some relief with the draining of the fluid. Continuing thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDelete6 liters of fluids is about the whole amount of plasma a human being has in her / his entire body !!😰 😰
DeleteI’m heartbroken and disgusted at the situation the health care system has put Kelly in up there. I wish you all could either come to US and go to San Francisco or Houston. I can’t help but ask, what if you drove south of the board and went to New York? Kelly has so much will to live and that is half the battle. You have people down here willing to help. Love to all of you including Kelly’s children and grandchildren.
ReplyDeleteI so hope you and Kelly can be together tomorrow. You both need a hug!
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ReplyDeleteI think you need a much bigger bench to accommodate everyone that would like to sit beside you and Kelly offering a hand to hold, a shoulder to lean on, and a comforting embrace when the darkness waits for light.
ReplyDeleteDeb
It is so frustrating on the phone with those who do not have a command of the English language. I had a call this week and several times asked that the person speak slower, but to no avail.
ReplyDeleteIt is so sad to see how your health system has failed dear Kelly in so many ways. We can only continue to prayer for her and you. Take care and stay strong knowing that so many care for the Bayfield Bunch.
It seems so unfair that you cannot visit Kelly and hold her hand due to these Covid restrictions. She is in a private room for goodness sake.
ReplyDeleteour thoughts and prayers are supporting you- Mary Lou
ReplyDeleteTime for Kelly to go home now that the fluid's been drained. If they don't release her, go bust her out anyway, if she's ready to go. It has been proven they do stuff when they get around to it. Hospital's have been turned into killing machines. Best to stay away. Awful when you can't. How many Canadian doctors have died since the u-know-what rollout? It can't have benifitted the system.
ReplyDeleteAs I've followed you and Kelly for many years, I rarely comment, however your Ernest Hemmingway quote touched me as well
ReplyDeleteEveryone that enters a hospital today needs an advocate.
ReplyDeleteThe medical system has been fractured by protocols that have no benefit to patients but to keep them isolated.
Nurses and doctors are coming forward to tell of what is happening, only to be silenced and have their credentials revoked.
It’s heartbreaking.
It seems the health care system is like that everywhere any more. We may not be there in person, but know we are all sitting right next to Kelly and you, lifting you up with our prayers.
ReplyDeleteI googled the weight of 6 liters of fluid & it is over 13 US pounds.!! OMG - I can barely lift a 10 lb bag of potatoes - imagine that weight laying on Kelly's stomach & pressing on all her internal organs. So very sad - but, glad they finally got it tapped. Praying that as I write this - Kelly is in the car with you (coffee and donuts in hand) & on her way Home to be greeted with kisses from Pheebs. Love Always.
ReplyDeleteWow. I am sad to hear this, but thankful for your honesty. Hope for a release soon. Healthcare is broken in US too, but I can visit or even stay overnight with my wife. The 1+ year wait to get any relief for osteoporosis is criminal. There are some good treatments to help with that & once Kelly is out then hopefully you can get that started soon. 6l of fluid removal should make her feel better, but getting home will be great for you both.
ReplyDeleteOnly half a cat today.!
ReplyDeleteThank you for the bare truth of the medical situation. All the Bayfield Bunch are with you and Kelly through this ordeal. We are all holding her hand in our thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteNothing much to add, except you are both in my thoughts, and we support you. Kelly's long battle has breen hard on you too. Loving her is just about all you can do.
ReplyDeleteThat first gallery photo seems to go with the poignant Hemingway quote. The power of support without advice is so important. Frustration with medical care is sadly not limited to your country. I'm glad they were able to get Kelly taken care of yesterday after all! Surely the January 2026 was a typo? Holding all of you in the light.
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