Sunday, June 17, 2012

A FEW THOUGHTS ON FATHER’S DAY + A FEW FINAL CANDID WEDDING PHOTOS

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JUST OFFSHORE FROM SATURDAY AFTERNOON’S DEER PARK LODGE WEDDING BEACH
Luckily I remembered to close the Motorhome door, put the windows up on the Jeep, slip the Motorcycle into the car port & close both shed doors.  With a rumble, the rains came tumbling into our area in the wee hours of morning.  I always enjoy listening to the outside plant life giggling their thankful appreciation when that happens:))
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SPOTTED THIS VINTAGE MGA IN BAYFIELD TODAY…RIGHT DOWN TO THE COLOR IT LOOKS VERY SIMILAR TO THE 1956 AUSTIN HEALY I HAD BACK IN THE LATE 60’S
With threatening skies & sporadic rain showers moving through the area I decided to forego my Sunday morning bike ride.  The back country gravel roads were going to be too wet anyway I wasn't too enthusiastic about getting the motorcycle all muddied up anyway.  Pheebs & I Jeeped ourselves up to Goderich for some groceries & split a roast beef sandwich from the Supermarket Deli.  After picking out the yukky pickles first that is.
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AND THIS IS WHAT SATURDAY’S WEDDING TENT LOOKED LIKE WITH FURNITURE IN IT
Way back in the 80's I recorded myself a whole pile of music from CD's to cassette tape.  Didn't have a CD player back in those days but I did have several Cassette Players.  I still listen to those tapes every day in the morning.  A Boombox sits in our washroom & while I am in the shower I have the likes of, Hagood Hardy, Stephane Grapelli, Blue Guitar, George Shearing, Segovia, Wes Montgomery, Hoagy Carmichael, George Winston, Will Ackerman, Dan Gibson, Manheim Steamroller, Pat Metheny, Glen Miller, Alex DeGrassi, Michael Hedges, Japanese Melodies, Lee Ritenour, Mark Knopfler, Phil Coulter, Larry Carlton, Radio Days, Alan Stivel, Celtic Memories, Andreas Vollenweider, Coyote Oldman & Steven Halpern just to mention a fraction of my cassette library.  You may notice a common thread running through the majority of this music.  All but a few are instrumentals.
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DEFINITELY NO KIDS AT THE WEDDING, BUT THERE WERE A COUPLE DOGS:))
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THE BOYS
Here on the computer, my daily music comes from SOMA FM & it is the ‘Groove Salad’ station that I am always plugged into.  No commercials, just one great piece of modern instrumental music after another.  I love electronic music because it is so innovative & chalked full of quality, imagination & inspiration.  Constantly playing through our living room stereo system via cable television is a channel called, The Chill Lounge.  Again, no jarring noise here, just non-stop cutting edge inventive new age type music.
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SHOES OPTIONAL AT THIS WEDDING
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WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER,VIDEOGRAPHERS & MUSICIANS AT WORK… LIKED THE PINK TIE & SHORTS IDEA:))
In the Jeep & in the Motorhome we have SIRIUS SATELLITE RADIO.  I dumped agonizing commercial radio years ago & have never looked back.  Don’t care how much it costs because I am happy to pay the annual fee to be surrounded by the type of music I prefer & love so much.  There are many great channels on Sirius but the two I prefer are, 068 ‘The Spa’ & 004 or ‘Forties At Four.’  The latter is Big Band Music.  Another one of my favorites.  Yes, & on occasion I still trot out my library collection of old Fav’s including Jimi Hendrix, The Doors, Santana, Emerson-Lake & Palmer, Pink Floyd, America, The Eagles, & Creedence Clearwater Revival just to name a very few again.  Oh, & how about the Bee Gee’s Saturday Night Fever soundtrack.  Could go on forever with music preferences but I think that is about enough music talk for another day.  Music is one of my all time favorite things so I do get a little carried away sometimes talking about it…….:))
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MAYBE JUST A LAST FEW MINUTES OF NERVOUS ANXIETY HERE
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A LAST HUG FROM DAD & THEN IT WAS DOWN THE AISLE
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AND THEN IT WAS ALL OVER
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AND PERHAPS A LITTLE SOMETHING TO CELEBRATE WITH
And, just a few words about Father’s Day.  I never did get to know my Father real well.  My Mother & Dad were divorced when I was about 6.  My Dad & I did manage to spend a little time together over the years & I probably saw more of him in the final few months of his life than in all the 48 years before that.  My own Son is over 40 now but I never went through the Fathering process with him.  His Mother & I were never a part of his growing up years & the folks that did bring him up turned out to be excellent parents.  They did far more for him than his Mother or I could have.  His Mother & I were a product of the turbulent times in the late 60’s,  So, Fathers Day is always a void.  Doesn’t bother me but I do realize I might have ended up a much different person had I had the experience of not only having a Father, but being a Father as well.  It’s just one of those things in life that turned out to be the way it is…………
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FELLOW BLOGGER JUDY SOMETIMES WRAPS HER BLOG POST UP WITH A ‘THE END’ PHOTO, SO FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER,  I HAVE DECIDED TO DO THE SAME THING HERE…NICE FIRST TIME I’D SAY:))
GROANER’S CORNER:(( 
Today, Father’s Day is much different than back in the 1900’s.  Fathers didn't have it nearly as good as fathers of today, but they did have a few advantages:
In 1900, fathers prayed their children would learn English.
Today, fathers pray their children will speak English.

In 1900, a father's horsepower meant his horses.
Today, it's the size of his SUV.

In 1900, if a father put a roof over his family's head, he was a success.
Today, it takes a roof, deck, pool, and 4-car garage. And that's just the vacation home.

In 1900, a father waited for the doctor to tell him when the baby arrived.
Today, a father must wear a smock, know how to breathe, and make sure the iPhones camera is working.

In 1900, fathers passed on clothing to their sons.
Today, kids wouldn't touch Dad's clothes if they were sliding naked down an icicle.

In 1900, fathers could count on children to join the family business.
Today, fathers pray their kids will soon come home from college long enough to teach them how to work the computer and program the TV remote.

In 1900, fathers pined for old country Romania, Italy, or Russia.
Today, fathers pine for old country Hank Williams.

In 1900, a father smoked a pipe.
If he tries that today, he gets sent outside after a lecture on lip cancer.

In 1900, fathers shook their children gently and whispered, "Wake up, it's time for school."
Today, kids shake their fathers violently at 4 a.m., shouting: "Wake up, it's time for hockey practice."

In 1900, a father came home from work to find his wife and children at the supper table.
Today, a father comes home to a note: "Jimmy's at baseball, Cindy's at gymnastics, I'm at adult-Ed, Pizza in fridge."

In 1900, fathers and sons would have heart-to-heart conversations while fishing in a stream.
Today, fathers pluck the headphones off their sons' ears and shout, "WHEN YOU HAVE A MINUTE.."

In 1900, a father gave a pencil box for Christmas, and the kid was all smiles.
Today, a father spends $800 at Toys 'R' Us, and the kid screams: "I wanted an iPad!"

In 1900, if a father had breakfast in bed, it was eggs and bacon and ham and potatoes.
Today, it's Special K, soy milk, dry toast and a lecture on cholesterol.

In 1900, a Father's Day gift would be a hand tool.
Today, he'll get a Smart Phone.

In 1900, fathers said, "A man's home is his castle."
Today, they say, "Welcome to the money pit."

In 1900, a happy meal was when Father shared funny stories around the table.
Today, a happy meal is what Dad buys at McDonald's.

In 1900, a father was involved if he spanked the kid now and then.
Today, a father's involved only if he coaches Little League and organizes Boy Scouts and car pools.

In 1900, when fathers entered the room, children often rose to attention.
Today, kids glance up and grunt, "Dad, you're invading my space."

In 1900, fathers threatened their daughters suiters with shotguns if the girl came home late.
Today, fathers break the ice by saying, "So...how long have you had that earring?"

In 1900, fathers were never truly appreciated.
In 2012, fathers are never truly appreciated.
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- The only thing better than right now will someday be the memories of right  now...AL.
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15 comments:

  1. LOL on the end photo. Very apt. :)

    Better to have your kid raised by good parents if you know you're not in the position to do the job. My sister had the same deal, and my aunt and uncle raised her two kids. She was a real rebel and just couldn't get a stable home together for the kids. But they turned out well and she did get to see them a lot. But it's still kind of sad. No recognition on Mother's Day.

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  2. at the time you made the correct decision for your son...one can always hope that he thinks so too..it must have been a difficult time..
    you can't change the past but you can change the future..be thankful for what you have and who you are and move on..
    nice ending by the way..such a 'man' you are, Al!

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  3. what a great heart full read Al...thanks for sharing your thoughts...love the 'end' pic..good one...and loved the groaners...did Pheebs get to go to the wedding?

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  4. I've debated getting Sirius radio for quite some time. I don't even have a radio anymore, and I'm thinking I should just get a boom box that can play my old Dire Straits cassettes. I like a great variety of music, but don't like it playing all the time. Good, thoughtful post today, Al.

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  5. We have Sirius in the truck and can't imagine being without it anymore. We also have a cassette boombox sitting between us in the truck especially for books on tape that we have many of. All of us wonder what we would be like and how our lives would be different if we had made a different decision at some key point in our lives. In your case, it turned out really well.

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  6. Thanks for all the music memories, Al. Love all your colorful photos here. Good ending, too!

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  7. Our Sirius is usually tuned to the 60s on 6 or the coffee house.

    Nice post today...I am fortunate to have a close relationship with my dad, he's an awesome man who I admire dearly.

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  8. I have 2 subscriptions to XM and they are on all the time. I would do without TV before dropping satellite radio. Seriously Sinatra is a good channel, too..71

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  9. That's about the fanciest tent I have ever seen. Very pretty. I'm sure all the guys out there are enjoying "The End!"

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  10. "Spa" is my first choice, too. Love the giggling flowers comment!

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  11. I'm with you, Al, on a lot of your music choices. Father's Day can be a tough day for a lot of different reasons. I wasn't lucky to have a good dad...Thank you for sharing a different perspective on that. Your blog is always real and from the heart. Thank you...

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  12. Liked the end pic! What about Grateful Dead?

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  13. I had an absent dad. His body was present every evening between 6pm and my bedtime but he was glued to the TV. Almost never said a word to me unless he was yelling. And thus, he is 91 now and we are not close and have no relationship. Luckily my daughter had a different kind of father so father's day as become a better day for me too.

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  14. I'm sorry you were never able to "father"..I have a feeling you would have been a pretty good one..But who knows what twists and turns life will take us on, eh?? Perhaps that's why you shower sooooo much love on your animals...You seem to have lots of love to give...

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